Super mom sounds like it is something that comes natural. Right?
However, this is not the case. Most of us moms carry that sticker of super mom with us.
However, what exactly does a super mom do? What do you have to do to be a super mom?
And above all, should you be pursuing that epithet just for the sake of it? I firmly believe that mothers love their children and would do anything for them.
But, sometimes it is too much. It does not feel so good to be called super mom. Does it?
Balancing between house chores, meal preparation, family, jobs. This can be so overwhelming sometimes.
But, how can we become super mom for us? Have enough free time, be rested and spend time with our children without tension.
How can we start enjoying the life we have and just for once not think about what we have to do tomorrow?
If you are a respected woman with great family and good job, most people would say that it must be easy being good at everything.
However, being a mother and a wife surely is not something you can do by the way.
It demands your whole heart, every bit of energy you have in yourself.
I remember when I started working after pregnancy.
It felt so bad because I could not deal with my consciousness. I felt like I was a bad mother for leaving my 1 year old kid and go to work.
On the other hand I am from a generation of women whose parents brought them up to be educated, capable, independent.
You see where I am going with this? It really hard to balance all these things. Super mom is not only thing that defines me.
Why You Should Not Accept This Super Mom Term
As you may have already noticed I really do not like when someone calls me this.
However, I see more and more women calling themselves super mom. I think to myself that this is really weird.
What is the meaning of this? What does it take to be a super mom? Aren’t all moms super?
This really is a weird one to be honest.
It really is hard doing everything. Cleaning, washing, making breakfast. Working. Making sure everything is alright.
Balancing all these things can take away so much from that I sometimes do not know where to start.
But does this make you super? In whose eyes? Of your family? Friends? Husband?
Maybe. But that is not why you are doing these things nor it should be.
We live in a society which, whether we like it or not, depends on us, women, to make that difference.
To go the extra mile. Don’t get me wrong. I am not minimalizing effort that my husband does for this family. Because, trust me, he is doing a lot.
Both of us are doing everything we can for the sake of our child. And this is the way it should be.
Both of us must make that extra effort so that we can enjoy moments we have together. To make them beautiful.
Because if we do not have those moments than why are we working as hard?
Do not accept this super mom term just because you are doing things you know that payoff in the long run.
Don’t accept this term because being a mom is super in its core and we all know it. We, moms, do not have to be labelled to feel better.
Why Should You Feel Super?
Feel super because you can be whoever and whatever you want to be.
You can all do whatever you put your mind to. Do not wait to be called a super mom and let that be the only thing that defines you.
You are a mom because you are super. You are a mom because you earned to have that feeling whenever you hold your baby in your arms.
Every good thing that happened to you is deserved. That bad first date your husband took you to but you liked it because it was with him.
Every present, every nice word, every single kiss you deserved. You know why? Because you are who you are.
You should feel super because every thing you do is good because you did it. Even you fail, your failure will help you realise what you did wrong and do it better next time.
This is what our whole lives are. Trial and error. This is what build us as human beings. You need to know what.
You are all super because all of you carry that little thing that makes you super. Every single piece of your being is super.
We all need to know that we are human and we all make mistakes. But accepting that the only thing that makes you super is that you are a mom is wrong on so many levels.
When I hear women call themselves “super mom” I try to tell them that they are so much more.
Know that every thing that you do is what defines you. Don’t let people label you only as a great mom.
I am a great mom because my child deserves that, and in addition I will my best to be even better mother. This is what all of us should strive to be.
But only because of our children. Not because we should wait for someone to give us compliments because we give our all.
However, if that does happen just give that person a smile and move on. They will know.
Do not take is a compliment, think of it as a confirmation of you relationship with your child and your husband.
We are super because we give all we have to live a great life. Life full of happiness and greatness. Give our child someone to look up to.
To let them know what a great marriage looks like so that they can also strive to have what you have when they grow up.
DO NOT LET THAT SUPER MOM DEFINE YOU. We women, are so much more than this.